Saturday, January 19, 2013

IS YOUR LOVE BLIND?


‘Love is blind.’ It is a general conclusion. Is it literal or figurative? I came across that expression during my Shakespeare mania days in his book The Merchant of Venice “love is blind and lovers cannot see.” Mercutio, one of the characters pointed out... “If love be blind, love cannot see the mark.” Now, you see it has been believed in over the ages and centuries that love is blind. Science proved this too. A research study by University College London in 2004 discovered that feelings of love suppressed the activity of the areas of the brain that control logical and rational thought. They say these neurochemical binders wear off as the relationship settles in.
That is for them. I have come to my conclusion that love is not blind. People are blind. Any love that is detrimental to your health and
well-being either physically, emotionally, psychologically or spiritually is not love. The signs are always there. That little voice in your head that springs awake when he starts to keep late nights. That clammy feeling in your palm when she wears expensive jewellery and tells you when you ask that it was a gift from some friend you have never met. His or her critical remarks and nagging. All those signs were there but you stilled them because you were scared of rocking the boat. You could not bear to find out the truth, your poor little heart could not take it you say.
Now, you see love on its own is not blind but your love can be detrimentally blind. How? Follow me and see if you fall into any of this.
· You see the way he ogles and stares at other girls in your presence, he does not respect you and you say to yourself that there is no harm in looking.
· All of a sudden, he /she cannot answer certain calls in your presence; they have to go out before they pick it.
· He/she never cared much about their dressing to work but now they do, even have new clothes.
· Now he/ she comes home late. Work has been hectic. They have to work extra hours for almost every night that week. It turns to months and you say ‘sorry baby.’ Even though your survival instinct says ‘look!’ you just count it off as needless jealousy.
· They do not do what they used to do when you first started and you tell yourself, ‘it happens in every relationship, these are the dry days.’ However, YOU still do what you always do.
· Now the calls have reduced to once a week and they are not intimate and are very brief like a business call. You do more of the calling. You tell yourself, it is modern times, I can do the calling. Wake up! There is a natural order. No one says do not call but you are no more challenging to him or her. You are looking needy. Any man that treasures something, will always want to know what he values is alright, be near it.
· They spend little time with you something always comes up. The excuses are like the Mt. Kilimanjaro.
· He/she treats you like dirt but you tell yourself no relationship and no one is perfect. They will change someday and at least you have someone.
· He slaps you around once and twice. You tell yourself he did it because he loves you too much.
· You never met his/her friends and you say ‘well, maybe they are not important or do not like me.’
· He tells you, he will leave his wife yesterday but oops! He has been saying that for the past three years and you console yourself with ‘that woman, she doesn’t want to let you go.’
· They do not feel like doing it anymore and you say ‘maybe they are tired.’ Yeah right! They have been tired for six months. Before you jumped it like rabbits every day.
· They say something and when you ask them, they cannot remember what they said initially. They do not have amnesia, they told a lie.
· Every time you wake up at night, he/she is missing and they tell you they went downstairs to drink a glass of water. This happens practically every night. You decide not to remember that there is someone else of your sex living in that house with you both.
· They now wear a perfume that is not theirs whenever they come back and they are always absent every time you call the office at a particular time.
· He/she smells as if they took a bath before they got back from work.
· They complain about everything you do, especially things they used to find amusing.
· They seek opportunities to quarrel.
· You keep visiting that dinghy room and spreading your legs so the sharp instruments can be pushed into you. Any man that loves you would not make you go through an abortion over and over.
· That engagement ring has been sitting on your finger for two and a half years now. Every time you try to bring it up, he escapes.
· Your relationship only takes place in the four walls of his bedroom. Cancel the thought; a man does not have to love you to have sex with you. They can detach themselves emotionally.
· Four years and you have never met the parents. He/she is not sure about you.
Well, I can go on and on. Now, you looking at me like what am I trying to say? That is something for you to figure out. God said in his Holy Book, not to trust in man but in him. So, is your love blind?
This article is a blast from the past, I just had to bring it back. If you enjoyed it, also read up on 'unrequited love' 'unrequited love 2'. Cheers!

2 comments:

  1. Nice one.we ladies need to wake up n smell d coffee.God help us

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