T.M.S SIGHTS!

T.M.S' Finding Teen Me, has come and gone but the impact lingers. Below are some pictures from the event organized by THE STIMME COMPANY. Enjoy!

                                                                 REGISTRATION ONGOING

                                                                                 DJ FLAMES

              FRANCES OKEKE WITH THE SPEAKERS; KEHINDE ABIOYE AND ADELEKE DAVID

                     RED CARPET HOST, ERIC NWANSO WITH THE DIRECTOR, TOPE LAWANSON.

              FACILITATORS, AZEEZAT SANNI AND CECILIA OGBONNA, REGISTERING A TEEN.

                                                                ERIC NWANSO

                                                       Teens getting their red carpet interview by Eric.

                                          ANOTHER SPEAKER, OLABOLUDELE SIMOYAN (AUNTIE BOLU)

                                                 MR SUNNY, DROPPING OFF HIS KIDS.

         The speakers: Dele Ayo Bankole, Kehinde Abioye, Olaboludele Simoyan and Adeleke David.

                             The Celeb guests ; Actors Paul Utomi and Felix Omokhodion.

                                                                    Felix Omokhodion

                                              Florentina Okeke and Kingsley Okeke

                                                            Typical teen behavoiur.

                                                               Kehinde Abioye

                                                            Turning Point Crew

                                                        Question and answer time.

                                                           Dele Ayo Bankole

                                                    The Transformed Generation Crew

                                             Felix Omokhodion  gets interviewed by a teen

                                                              Oaney Sings

                                                             Teen answering a question.

                                               Auntie Bolu getting the teens involved.

                                                         Paul Utomi in the hot seat.

                                                               Paul Utomi

                                                   Teens filling out their questionnaires

                                             

                                                  Some teens, speakers, facilitators and guest.

                                                           Frances with some speakers

                                                            Some Facilitators

                                          Frances Okeke, Cecilia Ogbonnah and Chinenye Jibunoh

                                                          Some teens and facilitators.

T.M.S

 Are you a teenager or you have a child that is or a sibling that is, Do you have teens that live around you; church, mosque, place of worship, neighbour’s, school? Then you or they are invited to T.M.S (The Mold Seminars).

 It’s happening on August 10 at the Ikeja Youths Sports Centre. Get ready to have fun as you learn and understand yourself better as a teenager. This day is all about you as a teen. You get to ask questions to our speakers and the celebrity guests on identity. We want you to succeed and the key to that is to understand the most important person in your life, ‘YOU’

 The theme for the day is ‘FINDING TEEN ME!’

 The sub-topics for the day are;

1)    What defines who I am?

2)    My self definition and my personality.

3)    My National Identity and problem solving.

4)    The Media and my Identity

5)    Relationships and interactions: other’s perception of me and my identity.

Your speakers for the day, who’d be guiding you are;

1)    Adeleke David

2)    Kehinde Abioye

3)    Olaboludele Simoyan

4)    Dele Ayo Bankole

And yours truly,  Frances Okeke.

  Guess who our guests would be,why not find out that day. Sit and get entertained with thrilling dance performances by the TURNING POINT CREW and  THE TRANSFORMED GENERATION CREW and electrifying music by DJ FLAMES.

  Don’t miss the red carpet, because on that day, you are a star, a celebrity and we want to celebrate you. You are awesome and courageous, the sky is your limit because you are special and you dream big. We’d love to show you that.

  What are you waiting for? To be part of T.M.S, send your NAME and AGE to 08025292989 via SMS and you’ll get an invite. Seats are limited and entry is absolutely FREE.

We’d love to see YOU there.

Don’t keep this to yourself, tell your friends ,neighbours ,classmates and colleagues, Spread the T.M.S word! Need more info, simply send an SMS to 08025292989, ff @stimmeafrica or email us; thestimmecompanyltd@gmail.com.

See you there!!!

UNREQUITED LOVE 2

An unrequited love can affect your whole life. You will never forget it. It can affect your way of thinking, emotions, relationships, beliefs, actions and the list goes on. So, then how do you get over an unrequited love? What are the procedures?
· Accept it and yourself- it is not your fault. Love is a beautiful thing when reciprocated and we don’t tell our hearts whom to fall for or do we? (To be taken up in another post.) Understand it; it is not usually a conscious decision. They just do not love you.
· Distance- out of sight is out of mind applies in this case. Time heals all wounds plus distance. Do not call or anything. Make yourself scarce. Distance yourself from them, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Tell me it is harsh or it is the coward’s way. I have grown to realise, if I do not hear from nor see the person, I do not feel it, it dies and you can dedicate your time to yourself and meet new people you would never have seen because there is no thought of waiting for the person you love, when they are not in your life. I cannot emphasise this more. It worked for me.
· Enjoy life- learn to enjoy life without them. Be single and free. Discover yourself.
· Neediness- kill every spirit of neediness you have. You do not need another human being to be happy. Placing your happiness on them has made them important, so, they use it and take your for granted. You and not others can only determine real happiness for you. Believe me; it comes from self-love and respect. When you love yourself, you can love another. If, you love yourself, you would not put yourself through this.
· If you love them, set them free and be happy for them even if they do not love you. Remember, it is not their fault.
· Boundaries- if you want to stay just friends stay that way. Be honest and straight to the point. Do not lead people on, so clarify those boundaries. Do not say I love you then later change your mind. Be sure of what you want. Let it be known that you are not out for romance. ( well if you can stay friends, I possibly can't after I have been led on but if it is your thing do it but don’t do it with a hope of if this person is mine crap. Squash it like a bug!)
The truth is when you know who you really are. You would never stand for this. When you know your worth and understand the basic home truth about you and that, always someone better will come along and feel the same way you feel about them. So, take my advice and discover who you are, it helps in the decisions we have to take in life. I leave you with these words.

Let no one who loves be called unhappy. Even love unreciprocated has its rainbow.
- James Matthew Barrie

HAVING IT ALL

  What does the term ‘Having it all’ mean? For us women, it is defined as having a great career plus a man. Some say it is having the fame, a great body, a good-looking partner, money and a baby. ‘Having it all’ has also been divided into seven categories or must haves: wealth, prosperity, fulfilling purpose, love, health, connection to self and spirit, and breathing room. They have been termed the components of a balanced life.  Generally, it does boil down to two: having a great relationship and having a great career.
  Sometimes, you see people point at a woman and say ‘she has it all.’ She has beauty, brains and a career. The amazing thing is you hear this from men, ‘she has it all, what more can I offer?’ They feel intimidated by the independent woman. If you are in a relationship with someone like this maybe it is time to cut him or her loose.
 Of course, she has it all but she needs you. You are a plus to her having it all. They have all that but you. There are many men out there, who do not get intimidated. They celebrate, value and give you that push you need when you feel you are slipping by being there for you. Therefore, why stay with someone who feels threatened by you? The answer is we were taught that to have it all we must have a man. Do you really have it all when you are not happy with what you have? Successful men, love independent women by their sides; the power couple. You think you cannot have this or you believe you do not deserve it all? Of course you do. Never sell yourself short. Most of us have this in our subconscious, the belief that we do not deserve it and feel guilty when everything is good for us.
  You need to let go of any limiting beliefs about ‘having it all’ and finding the right one for you. You deserve a partner who supports, understands and encourages you.
  We often ask ‘why don’t I have it all?’ you need to sit back and ask yourself; what is my definition of ‘having it all’?’ what do I want? Am I happy in my professional life? The people in my life right now are they dragging me down? Are they part of the picture I see for myself? Yes, you can but you have to prioritize. You have to make room in your life for the partner of your dreams and that dream career. You get what you put in. Thank God for technology, so many things have been made easy. You cannot be too busy to have it all. If that work is killing you and you have no time for yourself, you really have to ask yourself; do I want this? In addition, learn to balance your life. Yes, it will be hard but always keep that dream in mind. ‘Having it all’ is going to take real effort on your part. Sometimes you will feel like quitting and the negative thoughts would crop back in ‘kill it.’ All your decisions should be based on ‘is this what I want for myself?’ One advice, do be realistic, do not wait all your life for a prince in the literal sense of the word. Do not pass through life in a motion. Know what you want and aim for it. Find a balance; some things and some people have to go.
  If you are happy with your life, where you are now, what makes you feel you do not have it all? I say this because the definition varies for different people. When you know what you want, prioritizing becomes easy. Did I forget, pray to your God? Do not forget heaven helps those who help themselves. Yes, I will say it again, you can have it all, the life you want; a great job, great friends and a great spouse. When you believe it, see it, work towards it. Do not expect to fold your hands, sit in your dead end job that you do not like and expect a change. Relationships take time so does a career. Do not go for what people think and expect you to have. Real women do not do that.
  Therefore, let me ask you the right question again, what do you want?