Reputation and what do others think about you?

  We’ve all heard the word ‘reputation’  .Maybe your parents flung it at you.
 "How can you want to marry a Hausa boy? Don’t you know I’m a pastor? Do you want to ruin my reputation and that of this family?"
"Please when you get to school, remember the family you are coming from. Do not engage in anything that will ruin the reputation of this family."
"How can you come out with a third class? You have just ruined my reputation, you useless boy. My friends’ children all made first class and second class uppers."
"Where are you going to dressed like that, do you want to ruin my reputation? What would our neighbours say if they saw you outside?"
"How can you take the last position in class every time? Why is my own child different? Don’t you see how well the Onabanjo’s son did and he is in your class?"
"You cannot be a musician in this house. It is over my dead body. You want people to say my son is useless

The Age factor!

          

  This is an old post but after a conversation with a friend I had to revisit it , modify it and put it up again.
   Age to me is a matter of numbers. In the past, the age of a man was regarded as the measure of that man. Too much emphasis was placed on being elder or younger. Even wills were written reflecting on age because the eldest takes over when the father dies. Is it meant to be that way? Is it not better to give the property to your child you know will carry your business to the next level? Nevertheless, the age factor comes in.
    Even in relationships, the age factor has always been an issue. You see a couple so in love but because the man is old enough to be the girl’s father, the parents refuse. The scenario is worse if the woman

CONSIDERING OTHERS!

It’s human nature to be selfish. We never do things unless we are gaining something from it.It doesn’t have to be material. It can be self respect, acceptance or love. We even make friends with people we gain something from and make us feel good about ourselves. We all have the ME complex.  If the me complex is excessive we say the person is Egocentric. Well, we all are selfish so let’s not delude ourselves.  Ok! Let me not generalize; Mother Teresa wasn’t like that.   I’m not trying to divert from my topic but do you know that some people who give and run charity organizations sometimes do it for what they get out of it? They get fulfilment, acceptance, and recognition from the society and love. We never do things without looking at how it will affect us.

TICK TOCK!

Tick tock , tick tock,
Tick tock, tick tock,
Mr Clock sang over and over again.
The second hand moved slowly, steady and sure,
The minute hand answered the call,
The hour hand bowed to the pressure.
I looked at them wondered how they understood time.
So, I bent down, looked in and spoke,
‘Hello Mr Clock’

NO YOU CAN'T!

No, you can’t! I am sure you have heard that a lot. We all have at one time or the other in our lives. Even if it was not addressed to you but to another. People use it a lot to dissuade others when they do not understand your idea, your dream. They tell you it is not possible. When you start to believe them then you lose the passion for that dream and once that is gone, it is gone.
The question is do we always have to follow the norm? Do I have to walk like you or dress the way you think I should dress?