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Saturday, September 29, 2012

Reputation and What do Others Think about You? ( THE CONCLUSION)

  Yes, what people say can serve as a safety check towards your relationship with them but it also serves as a poison that kills you slowly. You lose your individuality in it.
  How do you lose your individuality? You do what they do because you want acceptance even if you don’t agree with it. You do it every time. It becomes your pocket bible.  Have you ever stood before your mirror trying on a dress, you love it and feel so comfortable in it but you tell yourself ‘people will point at me when I walk down the road. They’d think the style is bizarre’ then you pull the dress off for another.  Let me give you another scenario. You have friends that love partying and staying out late. You enjoy staying home, curled up on your couch with a bowl of potato chips in your lap and watch a movie but you don’t. You keep going out with them every night because you don’t want them to judge you.

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Reputation and what do others think about you?



We’ve all heard the word ‘reputation’ .Maybe your parents flung it at you. ‘How can you want to marry a Hausa boy? Don’t you know I’m a pastor? Do you want to ruin my reputation and that of this family?’ ‘Please when you get to school, remember the family you are coming from, do not engage in anything that will ruin the reputation of this family’ ‘How can you come out with a third class? You have just ruined my reputation, you useless boy. My friends’ children all made first class and second class uppers.’ ‘Where are you going to dressed like that, do you want to ruin my reputation? What would our neighbours say if they see you outside?’ ‘How can you take the last position in class every time .Why is my own child different? Don’t you see how well the Onabanjo’s son is doing and he is in your class.’ ‘You cannot be a musician in this house. It is over my dead body. You want people to say my son is useless

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

The Age factor!

          

  This is an old post but after a conversation with a friend I had to revisit it , modify it and put it up again.

   Age to me is a matter of numbers. In the past, the age of a man was regarded as the measure of that man. Too much emphasis was placed on being elder or younger. Even wills were written reflecting on age because the eldest takes over when the father dies. Is it meant to be that way? Is it not better to give the property to your child you know will carry your business to the next level? Nevertheless, the age factor comes in.
    Even in relationships, the age factor has always been an issue. You see a couple so in love but because the man is old enough to be the girl’s father, the parents refuse. The scenario is worse if the woman

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